Or waste time. Set a timer and abide by it.
Even if it complicates things. Because it's more fun that way. And that’s how it should be. With the coolest people you know.
Then every surprise will be pleasant.
And it must be controlled. Who are you to exert yours unfairly over another? Know there’s always someone who can do the same to you.
Is about accepting your flaws and taking criticism towards your character while truly appreciating it. It’s about humility. Because feedback on your character is the hardest to take. Feedback on processes don’t count.
Take one away. Pissed. Give only one to begin with. Ecstatic. What you don’t know won’t hurt you; Be happy with what you’ve got; You are entitled to nothing.